Thrive for Equity

Feel good.

and

Feel good about who you are.

You don’t need to be a hero. 

Or a savior. 

We don’t need any more of those. 

Heroes need powerless victims to save.  And that’s not who your fellow humans are.

Besides, far too often, the idea of “saving” has been used as a justification for why certain people are in charge and others are expected to follow their orders, practice their customs, and believe what they deem right to believe.

( I bet you’ve been on the wrong side of that set-up more than once.)

You, Beloved Amazing One, 

Are not here to be in that story. 

You are here to craft a new one, alongside many others. 

Special and unique in your quest, but not alone. 

Sovereign and powerful in your own right, but not one who rules over or goes forth and conquers.   

We start by nurturing your deep inner peace and freedom to enjoy being alive.

We start by cultivating your best life.

How do we do it?

  • Our coaching sessions will be a place where you feel deeply held and able to bring your whole self, so you can relax and find new ways forward that you couldn’t see before. Together we’ll uncover what delights you and loosen your joy.

    We’ll meet in-person (Baltimore) or virtually for 60-75 minutes, two or three times a month, depending on your package.

  • We’ll integrate trauma informed embodiment practices into our work together - things like breathwork, dance, movement practices, pleasure practices that help you tap into your life force energy, and other simple but powerful actions that help you to calm anxiety and feel connected to your body, so you feel energized to do what’s yours to do and able to fully relax when its time for rest.

  • You have me in your back pocket through the Voxer app, so when you’re about to say yes to yet another board when you know your already maxed out, you can connect for a reminder about what you want most. Because the no is really a yes to something else!

  • We’ll cultivate action in the places where your heart most wants to serve now, with the capacity you already have. You don’t have to wait until you’re “fixed,” rich or your kids have left the house. But you also don’t need to live in perpetual sacrifice. Compassionate activism starts with compassion for you.

The humans who are drawn to work with me look like they have it all.

They are presidents of national non-profits, powerful healers, successful entrepreneurs, leading activists, and bad-ass parents.

But like a duck in water, underneath the calm exterior they are paddling hard.

They are women and gender-non-conforming humans with deeply sensitive hearts and bodies, that make bearing with the “noise” of daily life a threat to emotional stability.

Anxiety, stress and overwhelm are common companions.

They feel guilty about not doing more and giving more, but also resentful about all they already do for others. Both at the same time.

I have news for you. This isn’t an individual problem.

You’re part of a much bigger system that’s designed to keep you small, tired, and hating on yourself.

You aren’t broken, you’re undernourished - heart, soul and body.

Let’s get you filled up and feeling better.

Imagine feeling at peace at the end of the day.

Knowing that you did what was yours to do.

And loved doing it.

You can create a life that you want to wake up to.

You can take action from your heart instead of from obligation.

And when you do, not only will you experience the incredible delight of living in connection to a diverse, delightful community of loving, joyful humans.

But you will also bring about changes in the world that humanity is longing for.

If you want this,  I’m here for it.  Let’s get started.

This is highly personalized human-centered coaching.

The specifics of your package and your results will be just right for you.

And they will be deeply nourishing for your soul.


Here are a few possibilities:

  • Happiness!

  • A healed relationship with your body and pleasure

  • Increased confidence and effectiveness as a leader

  • Improved physical health and the ability to be a more present parent

  • Freedom to prioritize doing what you enjoy (not just taking care of everyone else) and having your enjoyment in life expand and increase for years after completing our work together.

  • A renewed marriage, or the courage to leave a partnership that’s not working

  • Peace about to leaving work that was important, but is no longer your to do - and finding new work that’s just as impactful, but more soul-nourishing

  • The ability to start that non-profit you’ve been dreaming of for years

Testimonials

  • Before Deb and I worked together I was deep in a tunnel vision of blame and shame, trying to understand what was going on for me and in my significant relationships – around race especially.  I was stuck.  After working with Deb I feel less stuck. And I have a more nuanced understanding of which things are my responsibility and which are shared.”

    Brigid

  • “Because of working with Deb, I have a calmness that I’ve never had before even when things are really difficult.  Not a detached dissociation, but a calmness.  It just seems to grow when I notice it!"

    Ame

  • “I no longer believe I have to live in a perpetual cycle of suffering in order for the world to be a better place.  I no longer believe that God alone creates my destiny.  I believe that I am working with God.  I’m a co-creator with God in my destiny and the fulfilling of that destiny.  I’m a lot more self-confident.  I now believe that I’m really, really powerful and capable of steering the course of my life."

    Cece

I know firsthand how the poison of internalized sexism mixes with privilege + a side of deep sensitivity in unique ways that can make taking courageous, joy-filled action for what we believe in incredibly difficult.

In fact, I’ve found that women with lots of privileges, and sensitive hearts, tend to find it hard to view their very real struggles is as “valid” and themselves as worthy of support.

Here is the delightful truth that I want you to know. The choice in front of you isn’t “sacrifice everything” or “enjoy your life.”

There are an infinite number of ways that you can find peace, belonging, and delight in living - while you also increase your capacity to take action for a more just and loving world.

Together, we can find your way.

Coaching packages start at $1500 with the most common starting point being a $3600 three-month engagement.

Because we’re aiming for sustainable shifts of long-time patterns, clients typically work with me for at least a year.